Tuesday, November 25, 2008

Sad Truths...

While I know it's the holiday season and we're all supposed to be upbeat, I found an article that I think is very important, and deserves consideration.

In December of last year, Michelle Kehoe slit the throats of her two sons, ages seven and two, and driving her car into an icy river to cover the crime. She was rescued from the river, along with her two boys (the younger of which died from his wounds) by four men who jumped into the cold water. The rescuers are only now finding out that the mother, Michelle, was the one who hurt her children. More details can be found here.

The important point that I wanted to highlight here was a statement made by Laurie Levenson of of Loyola Law School in California. She was commenting on the stable annual statistic that shows at least half of all children murdered in the US are killed by their own parent. Her statement was this:
"The natural defense to anticipate is insanity because why would a mother kill her own child?" Levenson asked. "It certainly can be insanity, but it's not always the case. Perfectly sane people can do horrible things and they do, every day."
It's much easier to think that bad things happen because of some material defect in the brain, some sort of behavioral abnormality that cannot be controlled by those who suffer it. In reality, people do awful things all the time simple because they can, not because they cannot.

The reason I'm blogging about this is because, in actuality, it is statements like Ms. Levenson' that give me hope for the state of humanity. Evil isn't something that sneaks and creeps along and takes over people to commit horrible deeds. People choose to do horrible things. Which means that they can choose to do good things, too.

I guess the hard part is figuring out how to make it easier to choose to do right than to choose to do wrong. And I guess that's why we have psychology, sociology, anthropology, etc. To figure out why people do bad things, why they do good things, and how we can help them choose the latter.

Google Reader

Well, I've found my new favorite site (only behind LOLcats, of course...). Google Reader has allowed me to amalgamate all my favorite blogs, news sources, etc. etc. into one easy-to-access place. Indeed, it might be the only thing that brings me to read some of the blogs that I really love, because though they are amazing, my time is extremely limited, and searching through my bookmarks is not something I often do.

Highly recommend Google Reader. Thumbs up!

Wednesday, November 19, 2008

The Financial Crisis

Things have officially become a little bit more than slightly worrisome economy-wise. I found a great article from Pat Regnier, a writer for Money Magazine. It's a letter to his kids about the current financial crisis and how we got there.

Very poignant, I think.

Lessons for Kids from the Great Crash

Tuesday, November 11, 2008

Catching up

WOW.

How else can I summarize the past month? It was October 18th, almost a month ago now, when Sonny proposed to me at the Renaissance Faire. Words cannot describe how unbelievably breathtaking the whole experience was. Sonny had it planned out beautifully. Apparently he'd been working on the whole event for a month.

He told me the week before that Saturday that he had gotten this giant order in for four dozen roses, to be delivered at Queen's Court. He told me he didn't know many details of the delivery, so he'd have to scoot of partway through our preparations that morning to make sure he delivered to the right person. Little did I know he was making the final preparations for his proposal while I sat vialing roses behind the shop! I had the whole four dozen (and then some) vialed by the time he got back.

The reason I rushed through getting them ready was because Laura and Val had slipped behind the shop with me after Sonny had taken off. They told me that they had arranged with the Queen to have Sonny knighted as the Best Bud Stud Ever (which of course he is). I thought this was a marvelous idea, and so set about making sure everything would be ready in time for him to be there for Queen's Court at 11:15. First, I called my parents (who were coming, and I had never given a second thought as to why) to let them know they should be there on time to see Sonny be knighted. Then I remembered Sonny had said his mother was coming as well - and I thought to myself 'what luck! She'll see him get knighted too!'. So obviously it's just not that hard at all to pull the wool over my eyes.

Laura arranged so that we could all go to Queen's Court and 'watch Sonny be knighted'. I sat with my family, and saw Sonny standing off to the side. 'Mua ha ha', I thought, 'he has no idea what's about to happen!'. Again, with the obliviousness. Sonny came up to the front of the stage and started speaking - I wondered how much they must have tipped him to get him to be so willing to speak in front of so many people!!! And of course, the rest is history - the presentation of the roses, him going down on one knee, and of course, lots of kisses!

I was ashamed to admit to him later I couldn't remember what I had said - but thankfully he remembered exactly what I responded to him with:

"Yes, of course yes!"


PS - That rainbow appeared mysteriously in one of the pictures Amanda took. I haven't doctored this photo or anything - I think it's just another good omen for what is going to be an amazing marriage and a wonderful life.